UNSUBSCRIBE!

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Every New Year I unsubscribe to anything and everything that inundates my email inbox unnecessarily. If it’s not about God, family or work…. I unsubscribe. Goodbye Khol’s, Walgreen’s, Fox News, CNN, Southwest Airlines, Wine Country Gifts, Sherries Berries, etc. Thank you for your services, but please stop trying to monopolize my life! The advertisements, promotional ads, and junk news that are cluttering up my email and newsfeeds…. Bye-Bye! I’m saving what little extra time and energy I have available in my day for what truly matters in my life. Our email and our newsfeeds act as a window for what we allow into our lives and a lens for how we see the world. Do you have the courage to UNSUBSCRIBE? Just do it!

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will. -Romans 12:2

Nicie Lee
Christian Life Coach
http://www.NicieLee.com

Wubbled Your Wubble Bubble?

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If you’re a parent, you know what it is to hear great commotion accompanied with hysterical laughter in a nearby room. Whatever was happening, my kids were having a fabulous time. And then all of a sudden… deafening dead silence. So I drew in a deep breath and waited. My daughter entered the room where I was standing. Her eyes were cast downward and she held her hand to her mouth. I guess she was elected by her two brothers to deliver the “good news” or maybe she drew the short straw. She cautiously approached and says, “Momma?” Why is my name always presented in the form of an uncertain question when trouble lurks? “Ummm…. I think we wubbled the wubble bubble a little too hard because it kind of hit the kitchen light and it fell and the light might have broken a little.” Her description of wubbling the wubble bubble too hard softened the blow. I had to smile and remember one of my New Year’s resolutions to pick my battles and respond rather than react. Don’t we all have days when we’re just cruising along in life and suddenly realize we unintentionally wubbled our wubble bubble too hard?

Pick Your Battles

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Do you have a relationship in your life that is strained and driving you nuts? Maybe a spouse, child, co-worker or sibling is grating on your last nerve and just about everything they do is inconsiderate, wrong or incompetent. Do you find yourself being constantly critical of their words and actions? Do you watch them closely for the next screw-up?

One of the biggest mistakes we tend to make is making a big deal out of things that should remain small things. I guess it’s human nature to stand for what we think is “right” regardless of its significance (or insignificance) to the overall health and wellness of the relationship. In the wise words of Dr. Phil, “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”

The solution: Be wise and selective about the issues you’re willing to fight for. If they are going to advance or protect the relationship, by all means, take a stand. On the other hand if you’re merely trying to protect your ego, follow the advice of Queen Elsa from Frozen and “Let it go!”

Everyone needs positive affirmations. So if it truly is someone you love or it is an important relationship in your life, be sure to dole out a positive and encouraging word for every criticism you dole out. No relationship can survive on constant criticism alone.

You reap what you sew in relationships. You can choose to speak affirmation and respect or you can be critical and constantly ready to pounce. But one will return a bountiful harvest of loving affections and the other will simply kill the crop.

Pick your battles!

Nicie Lee
Christian Life Coach
http://www.NicieLee.com

Resolutions

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RESOLUTION
There’s something about the start of a New Year that motivates people to resolve to change some part of their life.

Resolve: To DECIDE FIRMLY on a course of action.

Making a decision starts with the brain. We’ve all heard that writing specific resolutions and putting them somewhere visible will improve the likelihood of success. I tend to agree with that approach because it serves as a visible reminder to our brain that we resolved (decided firmly) to make an important change.

But once your brain firmly decides to make a change, the actual change itself has to occur in your heart. Think about it, it’s hard for us to deny whatever our heart desires whether it’s good or bad for us. Our brain tells us one thing (right, wrong, good, bad), but our heart…. Well our heart wants what our heart wants and it usually controls our ultimate behavior and actions. A change of heart (not just a decision in the brain) is where our life can transform into something new.

So somewhere along the way, we have to connect our brain’s decisions to the transformation of our heart’s desires. So how do we connect our mind and heart?

We start with our Spirit!

Spirit: The nonphysical part of a person that is the seat of emotions and character; the soul.

There’s several practical ways to ignite your spirit, but it almost always starts with a prayer. Pray to God to know your resolutions and to help you achieve transformation. With God for you, who or what can be against you? No one! Nothing! You can do ALL THINGS through Christ who strengthens you.

So let’s recap:
1. Resolve (decide firmly) with your brain.
2. Write your specific resolution on a notecard or piece of paper and place it before you.
3. Announce to God your specific resolutions and pray for Him to: bless your resolutions, walk alongside you to help you achieve your resolutions, and to change your heart. (This ignites the Spirit!)
4. Place the written resolutions in a place where you can see it and read it daily (be intentional about reading it).
5. Repeat the prayer daily. This can be a quick prayer, but never cease in praying because it keeps God on your side.
6. Witness the transformation of your heart and the successful achievement of what you resolve to do in your life.

There’s so much more you can do to ignite your spirit to move in your life. But that would occupy the space of a book rather than a lengthy fb post!

Happy New Year! May you achieve all that you resolve to achieve in 2015.

Nicie Lee
Christian Life Coach
www.NicieLee.com

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