One of the most important questions you can ask your spouse or your child is, “Do you feel loved?”
Feelings come and go.
Love is not a feeling.
Love is a decision.
Love is not given for good behavior.
Love is not withheld as punishment.
Love is given whether or not it is deserved.
You know you truly love someone when the act of loving that person is more important to you than how that person makes you feel.
Do you want to live a real love story? Select a mate that knows how to love you beyond their self. And pick someone you are willing to love for a lifetime, no matter what. And when you have children, share that same kind of unconditional and secure love with them.
If real love sounds hard, look at Jesus Christ. He loved us so much that he willingly gave his life and died for us – even for those that did not believe in him, that betrayed him, and that spit on him. He gave his life for the undeserved because he loved them even though they gave him nothing in return. Jesus’ love is perfect love.
Some people say they would die for their spouse or for their child, but yet they live every day selfishly for themselves. How do you compare?
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Every New Year I unsubscribe to anything and everything that inundates my email inbox unnecessarily. If it’s not about God, family or work…. I unsubscribe. Goodbye Khol’s, Walgreen’s, Fox News, CNN, Southwest Airlines, Wine Country Gifts, Sherries Berries, etc. Thank you for your services, but please stop trying to monopolize my life! The advertisements, promotional ads, and junk news that are cluttering up my email and newsfeeds…. Bye-Bye! I’m saving what little extra time and energy I have available in my day for what truly matters in my life. Our email and our newsfeeds act as a window for what we allow into our lives and a lens for how we see the world. Do you have the courage to UNSUBSCRIBE? Just do it!
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will. -Romans 12:2
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If you’re a parent, you know what it is to hear great commotion accompanied with hysterical laughter in a nearby room. Whatever was happening, my kids were having a fabulous time. And then all of a sudden… deafening dead silence. So I drew in a deep breath and waited. My daughter entered the room where I was standing. Her eyes were cast downward and she held her hand to her mouth. I guess she was elected by her two brothers to deliver the “good news” or maybe she drew the short straw. She cautiously approached and says, “Momma?” Why is my name always presented in the form of an uncertain question when trouble lurks? “Ummm…. I think we wubbled the wubble bubble a little too hard because it kind of hit the kitchen light and it fell and the light might have broken a little.” Her description of wubbling the wubble bubble too hard softened the blow. I had to smile and remember one of my New Year’s resolutions to pick my battles and respond rather than react. Don’t we all have days when we’re just cruising along in life and suddenly realize we unintentionally wubbled our wubble bubble too hard?
Reading is the key to unlocking doors in our world. I am thankful for interesting reads and the writers who pen them.
I remember when I was a teen, a crazy one at that! My parents and my home felt like a corral from which I wanted to break free. I wanted to be independent and live out in the world that I just new was waiting for me. And I did just that; rarely looking back, feeling like I could finally breathe.
And now decades later, after my education, my job, my marriage, and having my kids, I often long for home. I want to hear my parents’ stories and laugh with my brother and his family. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband with all my heart and the life we are living. But there’s just something about “going home” to the corral that contains unconditional love, comfort and security. It’s where the family gets together and the new generation of kids roam free.
I thank God for these visits, because all too quickly they become mere cherished memories. And as we pull out of the driveway to return to the life that I set out to build so long ago, I look out my window back at that corral that once kept me contained… I shed a gentle deep kind of cry. That corral means the world to me. I think to myself, why ever did I want to leave?
Are you missing out on life experiences, relationships and your dreams because your fear of “what if’s” is bigger than your faith in “God’s will”?
Ann Lander’s poem:
is to risk appearing a fool.
is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another
is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings
is to risk rejection.
To place your dreams before a crowd
is to risk ridicule.
is to risk not being loved in return.
To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds
is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
who risks nothing,
and is nothing.
He may avoid suffering or sorrow,
but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow, or love.
Chained by his certitudes,
he is a slave.
Only a person who takes risks
I would only add that with God, all things are possible. You can choose fear and hide or you can choose faith and be free. You decide.
Whatever you have, whatever you do, make it count.
Never underestimate your ability to make the world a better place. What may seem mundane to you can build up the soul of another. Whether it is a small note in your child’s lunch, serving a hot meal to your family, a quick “hello, how’s it going?” with your neighbor, a random “I love you” text to your honey… It all counts in big ways and it will be returned to you. Doing what you do every day with an engaged and loving heart will unleash your greatness and will become your joy.
Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” (Luke 6:38 ESV)