Do You Feel Loved?


One of the most important questions you can ask your spouse or your child is, “Do you feel loved?” 

Feelings come and go.
Love is not a feeling.
Love is a decision.
Love is not given for good behavior.
Love is not withheld as punishment.
Love is given whether or not it is deserved.

You know you truly love someone when the act of loving that person is more important to you than how that person makes you feel.

Do you want to live a real love story? Select a mate that knows how to love you beyond their self. And pick someone you are willing to love for a lifetime, no matter what. And when you have children, share that same kind of unconditional and secure love with them.

If real love sounds hard, look at Jesus Christ. He loved us so much that he willingly gave his life and died for us – even for those that did not believe in him, that betrayed him, and that spit on him. He gave his life for the undeserved because he loved them even though they gave him nothing in return. Jesus’ love is perfect love.

Some people say they would die for their spouse or for their child, but yet they live every day selfishly for themselves. How do you compare?

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I remember when I was a teen, a crazy one at that! My parents and my home felt like a corral from which I wanted to break free. I wanted to be independent and live out in the world that I just new was waiting for me. And I did just that; rarely looking back, feeling like I could finally breathe.

And now decades later, after my education, my job, my marriage, and having my kids, I often long for home. I want to hear my parents’ stories and laugh with my brother and his family. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband with all my heart and the life we are living. But there’s just something about “going home” to the corral that contains unconditional love, comfort and security. It’s where the family gets together and the new generation of kids roam free.

I thank God for these visits, because all too quickly they become mere cherished memories. And as we pull out of the driveway to return to the life that I set out to build so long ago, I look out my window back at that corral that once kept me contained… I shed a gentle deep kind of cry. That corral means the world to me. I think to myself, why ever did I want to leave?


Live Your Purpose


God created each one of us with a unique purpose. Find your purpose, live your purpose, and you will find your joy.

“If you have felt hopeless, hold on! Wonderful changes are going to happen in your life as you begin to live it on purpose.”

Rick Warren:
The Purpose Driven Life


Fear & Hiding or Faith & Freedom?


Are you missing out on life experiences, relationships and your dreams because your fear of “what if’s” is bigger than your faith in “God’s will”?

Ann Lander’s poem:
To laugh
is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep
is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out to another
is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings
is to risk rejection.
To place your dreams before a crowd
is to risk ridicule.
To love
is to risk not being loved in return.
To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds
is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken
because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person,
who risks nothing,
does nothing,
has nothing,
and is nothing.
He may avoid suffering or sorrow,
but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow, or love.
Chained by his certitudes,
he is a slave.
Only a person who takes risks
is free.

I would only add that with God, all things are possible. You can choose fear and hide or you can choose faith and be free. You decide.

Small is Great and Noble


Whatever you have, whatever you do, make it count.

Never underestimate your ability to make the world a better place. What may seem mundane to you can build up the soul of another. Whether it is a small note in your child’s lunch, serving a hot meal to your family, a quick “hello, how’s it going?” with your neighbor, a random “I love you” text to your honey… It all counts in big ways and it will be returned to you. Doing what you do every day with an engaged and loving heart will unleash your greatness and will become your joy.

Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” (Luke 6:38 ESV)